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It's not that hard to solve a problem, girls.
It often happens that when I get hurt, some way or another, by a person, it starts out with this lump in my throat, then a weird vomiting felling, I guess it's worrying, and then it turns out to pure anger towards the person. Sometimes, I think it's because I'm mad at the person for making me feel this way, other times it's because the person clearly overreacted, and I'm mad for the way they handled it, which is 100% human, I guess.
But this weird, sudden anger, often turns out in me, writing another blogpost. This time - for a change, it's not going to be towards the person, but the whole situation. The thing is: I hate how girls always has to make so many problems, out of one, simple problem. I mean, instead of calling me all kinds of shit, that's really hurtful btw in your meltdown, please fricking sit down, talk it through and find a solution. I really don't get girls, when it comes to this. Well, I actually don't get girls in many ways; i'm pretty sure i'm at least 50% guy or something. To make my issue short, it probably is, that girls have this scary, slightly disgusting need to make a scene out of everything. And I basically mean everything. For example, look at me and my friends (and we're really simple in this way, we solve our problems quite fast, thank god) but when we need to plan something, like a sleepover, it always turns out to a mess. Not in a bad way, just in a way where I think, this could be planned so much easier. Maybe not the best example, but you get the meaning, ay?
I guess I am so very simple when it comes to that. Well, I try to be. I'm saying this, not making my self some kind of saint, I have very many bad qualities, like mood shifts, and not really thinking things through sometimes, but I just get so, so, so stressed when there's girl issues. Like, it sucks out all of my energy, and just ruins the rest of my day, until it solved. Therefore, I think the best way to handle everything is, well maybe a fight first (not fist-fight, but the very exact moment you discuss) then sit down and talk it through, 'cause otherwise it'll stay in your system and poison it. Dramatically expressed. A problem with me is, when I feel unfairly treated, I just can't get myself to talk to the person. This anger grows, which, I guess, is ok, but it just stays. I don't know if it's a matter of honor, or if I think it's embarrassing. Yes, embarrassing. Weird choice of expression, but with it, I mean that I maybe think what I've done/said is embarrassing, which is very, very cowardly, or maybe, which i think it is in this case, I'm embarrassed because, once again it's me crawling back. It makes me feel like i'm this little person: Just to be stepped on, and it really pissed me off. Like i'm the loser, like I'm the child to be ruled over. Probably feeling this way, because I can't do anything about the feeling. It's a question of insecurity, and when I mention the subject insecurity, I could just go on and on and on.
The thing i'm trying to say, is that all of this is human. It doesn't make you a bad person, because you've maybe screwed up once or twice. It's so weird that I can both feel totally stepped on and cruel, but also grown up, and the one handling every freaking situation the best. You always see yourself the worst way, really. And you can get this feeling that nothings going to be the same now. It'll be so weird seeing the person again. It doesn't. I have the sickest prove to that. But you know, if it's you who've messed up, if it's your friend, your parents, you boyfriend, don't worry. Sit down, talk it through, and maybe you'll end up separated, but at least you found out, that that's the best thing for you. Because you solved it out nice, good and simple. You'll feel betrayed, hurt, mad, in freaking rage, but that feeling will end. Right now i'm drowning my "sorrows/anger," can't tell what in coca cola light listening to "Drinking from a bottle", when I guess I could use something a bit stronger. My way of handling these situations with putting on loud music, drink something and then do something I love, which in this case is writing. (It always is, it's so much easier to get your meaning out in words) And I think, my psychological stage is anger right now, 'cause there's some serious base power going on in here. (Or nah, my radio sucks, but the music is supposed to be bass-filled)
I don't know if any of this made sense to you guys. I hope it did, because it does to me, and I hope I've told you something, that might help in a present or a future problem. My one and only advice in everything, really (And by everything I mean everything.) is do it simple. SIMPLICITY makes life so much easier for everyone. I donut get why society haven't figured that one out yet.
Do it simple
Biggest, simple I love you all
Anna
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Hey loves!
I've finally finished babysitting my nephew - not that I didn't like it - I just think it's a sad, sad way to spend my saturday night. Now i'm relaxing. My dad's at a party (yes, my dad's at a party, while I sit alone at home and drink Jolly soda..) So I'm home-alone. My sis and one of her friends is in her room, but they don't come out much, so I'm basically home-alone, which I absolutely loooveee. Sometimes it's just nice to be alone, and be able to do what you want and think, without anyone interrupting you. I really enjoy that. I went to the opening of Horsens harbors new clubhouse/restaurant. They served too many delicious appetizers. Seriously, it's so lovely, but of course, really fattening.. Why does fat in food even exist.. It ruins so many good experiences. Well, I ate cake… Yes, Anna ate cake! And it was perfect! And then I went for a run, so I think it evens it a bit out.
I often think, that people make everything too complicated, you know. Like: You can't eat any unhealthy - Healthy living, you shouldn't eat after 8, you shouldn't eat bread or potatoes or pasta. I sincerely believe, that if you eat varied and exercise often, then there's nothing wrong with eating cake or candy now and then. - Maybe it's even healthy! Atleast it's healthy for the soul, and my sis actually told me today, that
1: Eating something unhealthy (cake, ice cream, candy) makes it easier for you to keep up with the training!
2: If you for instance eats a piece of cake, your metabolism increases and makes you burn off ( not sure it's the right word, but it was what the dictionary said) more!
3: Sometimes it's good for you to give in on your cravings..
Me and Julie has been very into all that healthy living. - Not in a good way, though. In the start it almost got out of hand, and turned into some kind of eating disorder. Luckily, we know much better know and is beginning to understand it, and everything. But wow, we thought a lot about it.
The sad thing is, this feeling never really disappears. You know, almost every time I eat something, I feel fat, and I'm actually in a constant fear of getting fat. Sometimes I actually catch myself in thinking, that nobody'll like me if i don't have this thin, well-trained body. That if I don't have it, then I'm like, nothing, and ugly, and it's absolutely terrible. In some way I think it's just part of being a teenage girl in the 2000s. This constant fear, of not being good enough, and I think everyone has it in some way. - Even those pretty, popular girls and boys. It's a natural thing, it's just important that it doesn't get out of hand. You should also have moments, where you look at yourself in the mirror and just go: Damn, I am pretty. or " you look good today" It's those little things you say to yourself that means something, and I promise you. If you narrow down the amount of candy, cake and all that stuff, and just eat balanced and varied meals 3-6 times a day, while doing something active each day, it can't end up that wrong.
Just don't over think it.
- Anna
I've finally finished babysitting my nephew - not that I didn't like it - I just think it's a sad, sad way to spend my saturday night. Now i'm relaxing. My dad's at a party (yes, my dad's at a party, while I sit alone at home and drink Jolly soda..) So I'm home-alone. My sis and one of her friends is in her room, but they don't come out much, so I'm basically home-alone, which I absolutely loooveee. Sometimes it's just nice to be alone, and be able to do what you want and think, without anyone interrupting you. I really enjoy that. I went to the opening of Horsens harbors new clubhouse/restaurant. They served too many delicious appetizers. Seriously, it's so lovely, but of course, really fattening.. Why does fat in food even exist.. It ruins so many good experiences. Well, I ate cake… Yes, Anna ate cake! And it was perfect! And then I went for a run, so I think it evens it a bit out.
I often think, that people make everything too complicated, you know. Like: You can't eat any unhealthy - Healthy living, you shouldn't eat after 8, you shouldn't eat bread or potatoes or pasta. I sincerely believe, that if you eat varied and exercise often, then there's nothing wrong with eating cake or candy now and then. - Maybe it's even healthy! Atleast it's healthy for the soul, and my sis actually told me today, that
1: Eating something unhealthy (cake, ice cream, candy) makes it easier for you to keep up with the training!
2: If you for instance eats a piece of cake, your metabolism increases and makes you burn off ( not sure it's the right word, but it was what the dictionary said) more!
3: Sometimes it's good for you to give in on your cravings..
Me and Julie has been very into all that healthy living. - Not in a good way, though. In the start it almost got out of hand, and turned into some kind of eating disorder. Luckily, we know much better know and is beginning to understand it, and everything. But wow, we thought a lot about it.
The sad thing is, this feeling never really disappears. You know, almost every time I eat something, I feel fat, and I'm actually in a constant fear of getting fat. Sometimes I actually catch myself in thinking, that nobody'll like me if i don't have this thin, well-trained body. That if I don't have it, then I'm like, nothing, and ugly, and it's absolutely terrible. In some way I think it's just part of being a teenage girl in the 2000s. This constant fear, of not being good enough, and I think everyone has it in some way. - Even those pretty, popular girls and boys. It's a natural thing, it's just important that it doesn't get out of hand. You should also have moments, where you look at yourself in the mirror and just go: Damn, I am pretty. or " you look good today" It's those little things you say to yourself that means something, and I promise you. If you narrow down the amount of candy, cake and all that stuff, and just eat balanced and varied meals 3-6 times a day, while doing something active each day, it can't end up that wrong.
Just don't over think it.
- Anna
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